A few days ago a friend of mine linked from her Tumblr account to this Huffington Post article.  The article “15 Ways to Stay Married for 15 Years” by Lydia Netzer has a lot of great advice on thing she and her husband have learned throughout the years together.  All her tips are a home run – in my opinion – the only one I really can’t decide if I totally agree with or not is “Go to Bed Angry”.  Although I see her point I would almost want to modify to say “sometimes go to bed angry”.

I’ve noticed a lot of married couples have their own tips/tricks to a long and successful marriage and I enjoy hearing their tidbits.  AND … with the husband and I quickly approaching our one year anniversary together I often think this  first year was a great start to the rest of our lives together!  I hope to write my own 15 tips for saying married in 14 years and 1 month. :)


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One of my absolute favorite pieces of advice is #12.  So FRIENDS I make this husband (and wife) pact with you …

“12. Make a husband pact with your friends – The husband pact says this: I promise to listen to you complain about your husband even in the most dire terms, without it affecting my good opinion of him. I will agree with your harshest criticism, accept your gloomiest predictions. I will nod and furrow my brow and sigh when you describe him as a hideous ogre. Then when your fight is over and love shines again like a beautiful sunbeam in your life, I promise to forget everything you said and regard him as the most charming of princes once more. The husband pact is very useful because you want to be able to vent to your friend without having her actually start hating your husband. Because you don’t really mean all those things you say. And she, the swearer of the pact, knows this.” source

The husband and I always say we are a team and it’s kind of become our thing.  So much so that we made sure the word team was in our wedding vows and made team sweat suites for the morning after our wedding.  Due to my love of the team mentality tip #14 really hit home for me …

“14. Be loyal.  All the crap you read in magazines about honesty, sense of humor, communication, sensitivity, date nights, couples weekends, blah blah blah can be trumped by one word: loyalty. You and your spouse are a team of two. It is you against the world. No one else is allowed on the team, and no one else will ever understand the team’s rules. This is okay. The team is not adversarial, the team does not tear its members down, the team does not sabotage the team’s success. Teammates work constantly to help and better their teammates. Loyalty means you put the other person in your marriage first all the time, and you let them put you first. Loyalty means subverting your whims or desires of the moment to better meet your spouse’s whims or desires, with the full understanding and expectation that they will be doing the same. This is the heart of everything, and it is a tricky balance. Sometimes it sways one way and sometimes the other. Sometimes he gets to be crazy, sometimes it’s your turn. Sometimes she’s in the spotlight, sometimes you. Ups and downs ultimately don’t matter, because the team endures.” source

What do you think of Lydia Netzer’s tips?  Is she missing any important tidbits?  Do you like the husband pact?

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When the husband and I hosted a Super Bowl party this year a friend made these cute little oreo truffle footballs.  These little guys were extremely addictive.  So yummy!!!!!

Our friend was kind enough to share the recipe with me after a few reminder *wink wink*.  Although I’ve been meaning to make the truffles for a while there hasn’t been a good occasion to give the recipe a try.  We had some friends over this weekend to check out the new place so I made the oreo truffles as a littler treat for  our friend.  They were a big hit!

Ingredients:

1 package oreo cookies (entire cookie including the cream center)
1 8oz. package cream cheese (softened)
white chocolate

Crush cookies in a food processor or place them in a ziploc bag and crush into a fine consistency.

Stir in softened cream cheese.  I had to use my fingers to get it all mixed together well.  The suggestion to use the back of a large spoon to help mash the two together just wasn’t working for me.  Or maybe it was taking too long, but either way my hands were very effective.

Roll the mixture into 1″ balls and place on wax paper covered cookie sheet.  I would actually suggest doing 1/2 inch balls. These little guys are super rich and the 1″ balls is about 2 bites. I think having one bite truffles would have been a little better.

Melt white chocolate as directed on the package and then dip balls into chocolate, tap off extra and set aside on wax paper covered cookie sheet to dry. (Tip:  it helps to freeze the uncoated balls for a few minutes to keep the mixture from starting to fall apart in the melted chocolate.)

Once dry, refrigerate.  This makes about 36 truffles (or 72 if you do the smaller truffles as I suggested).  I mean seriously these are SO easy to make and they taste SOOOO good.

Happy Cooking!

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